Saturday, May 16, 2009

The People We Meet.

Last night one of my bestest friends invited me over for game night. At first I wasn't going because I didn't have a sitter, but then she said I could bring the baby so I had no excuse. Plus I was feeling fine, and we always have a gang of laughs at game night.

We started out playing spades, we didn't win, but we talk shit like we did..lol

Then we played this game called "What is yours like?" (get your mind out the gutta it's not that kind of game). But it was made up by some of her drunk friends. It was fun to.

So after the games and whole lotta shit talking, we kinda of settled down. Some people left some stayed. So this lady Ms. Deborah and her daughter Ebony attended the shindig. I've never met these people before. But OMG! I'm so glad I came, because they are some of the most down to earth, people and I'm glad I met them. I've met people before, but not like this. Have you ever met somebody and it felt like you needed to meet them, to restore the way you view people. I say that because I'm at a point in my life, where I just want to be around positive people, spiritual people, open minded people, people who can say what' s on their mind, people who like to have fun. People I can be myself around. I don't want to have to worry about if I crack a joke, it they will be mad at me tomorrow. And Ms. Deborah and Ebony are these kind of people. I'm so glad I met them.

And last night before we gathered our things and parted ways. I had a talk with Ms. Deborah, I don't even know how it got started. But it got personal real quick. We briefly talked about my breast cancer, My husband, her husband, my sister, her siblings, her dad, my dad, our kids, and she gave me some great advice.

One thing she said to me was, Learn to Forgive, and move one happily. Now I've been told before to learn how to forgive. But to move on happily, I'm still learning that one.

Thank you Ms Deborah, I didn't even know I needed that talk. I will see you at church in 2 Sundays!

The Green Chips!

The other day I bought my daughter some sour cream and onion potato chips for her lunch. She calls the the green chips, because of the bag. So when it was time to fix her lunch. I said "Mommy bought you some green chips for your lunch". Her response was, "I know I recognized them". (LOL)

All I could do was laugh. I didn't even know how to correct her. (LOL)

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Fine, Fierce and Fabulous!!!

I feel like I help people all the time, and when it comes to me my baby...nobody really cares if we feel left out or not. My husband says people are jealous of us, not because of what we have. (Because we are not close to balling) but because of who we are. Come to think of it my momma has been telling me that for years. I guess it's my self esteem, on a scale of 1-10 I'm a top notch 12, bald head and all, I don't need nothing to validate me. Just Fine, Fierce and Fabulous. (and you know everybody can't pull that off, lol).


Ms Miko
I've been pushed but never knocked off my game by haters.
Holla

With Friends like these.....

So since I've been diagnosed with cancer, I've been looking at things differently....

Me for one, because this is truly an humbling experience...

And....
Secondly My friendships......

And WOW is all I can say....

Sometimes I don't know how I even became friends with some of these people.
So let me just tell you a little about me, when I call somebody my friend, I really mean it, I care deeply for my friends, I have my flaws, and my issues, but I am a good friend. Hell everybody should have friend like me. I do need to let you know I am an aggressive friend, I don't candy coat stuff, I tell you stuff in the raw. I give good advice, (at least that is what I'm told, I think I missed my calling)...If you need me, I do whatever I can to be there for you. If you need to vent, cry or just talk, you can call me. If you're sick or something has upset you, I will call or come visit you to check on you. I've let friends stay with me and my family rent free. (Hell I got a friend staying with me now...) I've taken friends back who has back stabbed me..( I know I know crazy right). I like to see my friends doing good. I try to stay positive and upbeat. I mean who wouldn't want a friend like me.

Ok now my friendship flaws.....

If you do something stupid, I will talk about your ass. let me say that again, if you do something stupid just plain stupid, I will talk about your ass. I may not say your name but I will discuss it. lol, if you piss me off, I will snap the hell out, that simple. but I think my positive out weighs my negative.

So with that said. Since I've been sick, I can't believe how my so called friends has been treating me. Not all of them have been a disappointment. but for the most part. I'm cool on these bitches. half of them don't call, or hasn't even been by. But they can send a forwarded text with no hesitation. Do they realize I have cancer, and my husband works second shift. I mean do they really care. I'm so glad I haven't needed any real help, cause I would be assed out for real. I do have a couple who has come through, and the others have just fallen short. Why do I need them, or do I need them...hmmmm....Sometimes I feel like strangers care more about me. (Bad, I know). So what is a girl to do? I'll tell you exactly what I'm going to do. I'm going to just play it cool, for now, because I'm already under stress with my cancer and all, among other things.

But.....

In about 6 to 8 months when I'm cancer free. (Cause I will be). I will be cool on these so called friends. And letting them go won't be hard at all. Then I will have room for some new friends, positive, strong, encouraging friends.


Holla
Ms. Miko


P.S.

If I'm doing this friendship thing wrong somebody please let me know.