Monday, December 6, 2010

Brown, Blessed and Beautiful...

So I'm in the process of starting a new venture to help Brown Girls. I feel that a lot of our young brown women are so lost in this world, with no body to talk to, or to listen to them. And that will be the main focus for Brown, Blessed and Beautiful.

The Venture will basically be focus groups, focusing on Self-Esteem, Friendships, Self Love, Love, Appearance, etc. Basically just things to help out with all the issues and insecurities of life. The Focus groups will be a NO Judgement Zone!! Cause we all have issues of some sort, Lord knows I do. But I believe this will be good for me and my daughter and other Brown women.

A Video Blog

I'm thinking about starting a Vlog (Video Blog) I'm kinda indecisive about it, because I feel like I don't have the time to write on this blog as it is. So would a video blog be better? hmmmm, I don't know yet, but I'm gonna to pray and ponder and see what the new year brings.

Friday, October 29, 2010

The Damn Fed Ex Dude!!

So earlier this week my husband ordered a phone from the AT&T website. The phone was suppose to arrive on Tues via Fed EX, now we both work 1st shift, so he left a note stating to leave the package on the door. So he checked the status of the phone’s whereabouts and on the FedEX website it said “Delivered at 2:47pm. Left in do per nice note.” Now the hubs get’s off work at 3:00 so he got home less than an hour of the delivery, and when he get’s there, guess what NO Phone…WTF, where is it?? I call him on my break from work asking how was the new phone and he says it’s not here, I’m like hold on didn’t the website say he delivered it? He said Yeah. So we call Fed Ex and they say they will investigate it, We call AT&T to let them know we didn’t get the phone, I know what you’re thinking maybe somebody stole it…Yeah that somebody was the damn Fed Ex dude, cause if he would have left in in the damn door like he was suppose to nobody would have seen it, the box isn’t that big and you can’t see thru the bottom of the screen door. So Now!! So I suspected him from the get go. His ass noted the acct like that, just so he can say I did leave it, or else how did I see the note…

So AT&T said wait until Fed Ex do their investigation and then they will do one and send out another phone. Fed Ex was suppose to do their investigation the next day and call the hubs back. So now it’s Wed and no call from Fed Ex, The hubs said when he got home from work he would call them to see whassup. He gets home and low and behold guess what’s there, the damn phone. Now tell me that damn Fed EX dude didn’t have the phone, he thought he was gonna get away with it, but when he found out we were getting it investigated he got spooked and brung it the next day!

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Born Again Virgin??

So I'm reading trying to come up with something to post, because I have been having writers block. So I'm searching the web and I come across this topic Born Again Virgin, and the reason why it interest me is because we were just talking about this at work..(I know interesting work talk huh??) Well it came up because a co worker said she had been Celibate for 2 yrs. Another co worker said "you're a born again Virgin" So me with my mouth said First off she hasn't been born again, and once you have sex that's it, you are no longer a Virgin, period.

So let me get into why I feel this way. Well first of all it's a fact a Virgin is someone who has not had sexual intercourse. That's pretty to the point. Now if you decide to become Celibate, meaning you are not engaging in sex, that's good for you, but you are not a Virgin! There is no way that you could be. It's not like you can turn back the time, and reverse all the sexual escapades you were in, or like you can give back all those amazing feelings you have during sex. There is not way you can now cut your connections to the people you let embrace you, and caress you and penetrate you or that you penetrated. Sex is not a trial run, like oh I'm gonna have sex for a while and see how this plays out then, and if it doesn't work the way you want it, you can automatically be a Virgin again....

But that' just how I feel, what do I know...

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Black Women and Our Relationship Status....

Ok I have been going back and forth on whether I should touch this topic, because I posted a couple of links on my facebook page, (I'll get into them later in this post) and it got way out of hand, people were calling names, and or getting offended. So like I said I've been going back and forth and I decided on doing so because, I'm a Black Women and this is my BLOG, and you don't like what I say then Whatever this is Me...but your comments are welcome...lol

So about 2 weeks or so ago I posted these 2 stories on my blog. Now I didn't write these I just came across them via Madam Noire, it's a site I visit frequently now.

The first one was 8 reasons you might consider dating a white man, and it was interesting how people see things, and then the next day I posted 8 reasons you might consider dating a white woman, and OMG it really got out of hand, I'm not gonna go all into what was said but if you want to see, you can find it in my links section on my facebook page. But now that I go back and read the comments it seemed like no one actually read the article. DUH! Because if they did, I think the whole conversation, would have went a whole different way, (hmmm maybe but who knows)...because both the articles were degrading to BLACK PEOPLE nobody else...and if you decide to read allll those post keep in mind, I did delete a couple to try to keep confusion down, but apparently that didn't...

Since these controversial post, I have been searching the net, and the more I search the more I get irritated, because there are numerous articles out there, that ask some kind of question to why Black women are not married, why black men don't want us, Have we given up on black men, and so forth..

So Before I get into what I have to say, This is my Disclaimer

These are MY views, and I've only dated black men so that's all I can speak on. I know there are a lot of people who believe that Love knows no color, and that's just fine, but mine does and my love's color of choice is BLACK!

ok now that that's out the way...

Why are they (whomever they are) so damn worried and or concern about Black Women and our Relationship Status. Why is it every body's business who and or when we decid to date...

First off there is the misconception of women especially black women that we all want to be married, FYI that shit ain't true, some of us do, some of us are and are married to black men, some of us are married to man of a different race, and some of us love the single life. How hard is that to understand.

All black women have not been hurt to a point where we are bitter, demanding and vindictive... now there are some out there, but also there are some in other races too..you do know that we are also sweet, innocent, respectful and knows how to handle things, yes it's true...

All Black women don't have kids out of wedlock, Let me say that again, All black women DO NOT have kids out of wedlock...and while I'm on this let also add some of us have only 1 baby Daddy, so please stop acting like it's unheard of...and best believe for as many single black mothers, there are just as many in other races too..

All Black women DO NOT date thugs, yeah it's true, we are not all attracted to the thug life, some of us are, but some us like white collar workers, blue collar workers, with or with out benefits...

and Oh yeah A lot of us do Believe in Black Love, yep I said it, A LOT OF US DO BELIEVE IN BLACK LOVE....and it DOES EXIST! and it has not just come into play, I mean where in the hell do you think all these black people came from, we did not fall out the fucking sky, we were not created in a damn Lab, we got here the same way all the other races got here, from our parents (yes we have parents) having sex and we came out of our Mother's Coochie....

Oh and my most favorite, Why Black Men don't want Black Women, now this is kinda funny, why you ask, is because How can you not want us, We are so powerful, strong, and Confident on top of being Beautiful. That's how we were born, and over the years of being mistreated by the media, and other races, and men, we continue to be Strong and Confident in who we are, Even though we are put down by other black women, by black men, by all other races, we still continue to be Strong and Confident, and Beautiful..

So I say to this to my Beautiful Black Sisters, with your big lips, nappy hair, big butts, big titties, your light, medium, or dark skin, Fuck what people say and think about you, Keep Doing what You do, Because you do it oh so well...

AND these so called new slogans like MY Black is Beautiful, and Black girls Rock...Let me say this, Black has been Beautiful for years, and will continue to be, and we did not just start Rocking...Where have you been???

How to do a Self Breat Exam...

Well this is just an informational piece, I've included a link to show you how to do your Self Breast Exams, in case you're not sure on how to do them

How to Do your Self Breast Exam
There are also videos on you tube for those who are visual.

I hope this helps some one.

This Brought Me To Tears...

When I came across this story, just the title alone "4yr old Battle Breast Cancer" brought tears to my eyes, and I just kept thing, Oh My she is a Breast Cancer Survivor at 4 yrs old, and people always say to me oh you're young, Breast Cancer is usually found in older women. Well at 4yrs old I am the older woman at age 37.

Now I know that their are kids that have many types of Cancer. And they undergo Chemotherapy, and all the effects that go with that, and that even is also touching to me, because I know first hand how Chemotherapy can effect you, mentally and physically, and to think of a child going thru is really saddens me.


Fortunately in this case this little 4yr old girl didn't need to undergo Chemotherapy, but she did have to have a mastectomy and have some of her lymph nodes removed. Now think 4 yrs old and having to have your breast or breast tissue, cause at 4 YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE BREAST YET!!! So do you really know what it means to this little princess, that she will never grow a breast on that side. Let me say that again, she will never be able to grow a breast on that side...OMG I'm in tears just thinking about that, can you imagine that, of yourself, or your daughter. As young girls that' a right of passage, some of us can barely even wait until our breast start to grow.

OK now that I've read about Aleshia Hunter (that's her name) I started to google children with Breast Cancer, and I came across some shocking stories, about young girls being breast Cancer survivors.

So my question is, even though it is rare for a child to get Breast Cancer, but it's not unheard of, why is it that they won't allow women to get Mammograms until age 40? hmmmm something to think about, well I will look into that and get back with you.


Now not only do you need to do your monthly self breast exams,
but you need to check your daughter's breast too.

Ladies this is real
Cancer can Kill
If you have Breast Tissue YOU ARE AT RISK!

Early Detection is key to your survival
Please, Please be aware of what goes on with your and your child(ren)'s bodies.

Friday, October 15, 2010

My Morning Biscuit!

For those who know me, know I love a biscuit. So every now and then I will go to McDonalds for breakfast, and get a #4 with cheese. So this morning was one of those mornings, I stopped at the McDonalds close to my job, the drive up line was way to long so I decided to go in. I go in and OMG what did I see, this man, a black man, prob mid to late 40's (maybe even early 50's) at the register. Now picture this he had on some diamonds (prob not real) but diamond earrings that were so bigh that you could see from across the street, a blinged out bracelet on one arm and a blinged out watch on the other arm, at least 2 rings all shiney, and a diamond (prob not real again)his chain that was tucked in his shirt, but you could see the medallion through his shirt...I was in shock, shock I tell you looking at this man, but I had my phone out. You should have seen me trying to get his pic without him seeing me, but unfortunely I wasn't successful...

~Sorry~

So while I'm line, I'm thinking to myself, why would even come to work looking like that..Do he know he work at McDonalds, hold on Does he know he at work...I mean did they hire him like that...lol

Then it's my turn to order, He says "I can help you" I said "No I'm good, I will wait on her" (pointing at the white lady) and whole time I'm thinking to myself I will not be served by the stero type.....

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month!

Yes it's Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and I hope you are Thinking Pink.

Well I have a Testimony and I love to share it people so they will know how real Breast Cancer is, because unless you have been directly effected by it, or personally know someone who has, then you have no idea of how it really is, or what is really is...

So here is part of my Testimony...and if you have time one day, look back over my blog, because you see my glory but you don't know my story, but you can read about it in this blog....(along with some other things)

On April 09, 2009 I was diagnosed with stage 3 Breast Cancer at the age of 36. I was lost, confused and unsure of what was in my future, but I decided early on I wouldn't be depressed and trust in God, for one because it wouldn't change my situation and for two, if for some reason I wasn't gonna beat this, I wanted my daughter's memories of me to be happy ones.
I have been thru chemotherapy (April 14,2009 - July 28, 2009) a double mastectomy (Aug 17, 2009), radiation therapy (Sept 14, 2009 - Oct 28, 2009), and reconstruction surgery (March 10, 2010). Also I went 7 months with no breast, about 6 months completely bald, meaning no hair at all, no eyelashes, no eyebrows, no hair at all. Now 18 months later and I'm Cancer Free but still Fighting the Fight, because it CAN come back.

Now I'm here to tell you Breast Cancer knows no age, sex, or color, if you have breast you are at risk, men and women, and you don't have to have a family history of Breast Cancer for it to develop. So Please, Please, do your monthly self Breast Exams, if you are old enough get your mammograms. Early detection is key to survival, let me say that again Early detection is key to survival. I stress that because I was in stage 3, and there is no stage 5, so I was almost to late. If you think you feel a lump GO TO THE DOCTOR!!

My name is Tamiko Edwards and I am a Breast Cancer Survivor.... I'm Fine, Fierce, Fabulous and a Fighter.. Thanking Jesus everyday! and Thinking Pink too!

So while you are Thinking Pink stop by these sites

www.thebreastcancersite.com click everyday to help fund mammograms for women who can't afford them or with no insurance and you can also buy Breast Cancer items here.

www.aabca.com this is the African American Breast Cancer Alliance (also check them out on facebook. This is the support group I'm apart of, I love those women...and if you are in Minnesota, AABCA will be having a Breast Cancer Survivor Gala...the info is on the site..

So Much has happened!!

Well it's been 7 months since I've posted, and boy a lot has happened...I'm not gonna go all into what has happened over the 7 months, but I will touch on some things that I feel are important to my readers,(hopefully I still have some)...

Well to start I am beyond blessed God has truly been covering me with his blood, and I thank him for his Grace and Mercy...

Um last time I posted I think I was still bald and beautiful and now I'm happy to say I HAVE HAIR!!! and it's all natural, I had always loved natural hair, but was scared to go with out my relaxer, but when you have been bald for hmmmmm 6 or 7 months, you realize hair, is just that hair, and what better time to be natural than the present...at least that's how I feel...

Also I've come back to work again...and let's just say that's going....


oh yeah before I go into this I want to say Thank You Jesus, for sparing my life...well back on Sept 6, 2010 me and my sissy Nile was out, Downtown Minneapolis, we went to the Blackout, but we ended up leaving 30 minutes earlier cause these girls were fighting...so we leave, we on the block talking to some people we know, you just kicking it, then some people started fighting down the block, then they started shooting and guess who got hit...Me Me Me, yep right in my new breast on the right side...whew I'm gonna stop here with this story, but I won't stop praising God, he is has been so good to me, cause by what the doctor said, if that bullet would have been 3 inches to the left, I prob wouldn't be here....Thank you Jesus...

Ok I guess that's enough to get caught up to date...even though I left a lot of stuff out, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't remember most of it, so it's better left unsaid...


oh by the way

It's Breast Cancer Awareness Month
Do your monthly self breast exams....NOW!

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Back on Leave from Work

Well as of March 5, 2010, I was officially back on leave from work, because I was having another surgery. As most of you know I had surgery back in Aug, actually Aug 17, 2009 (you can read about that here)... This time I was having my reconstruction surgery on March 10, 2010. The type I was scheduled to have is called the tram-flap surgery. From what the doctor told me, I was scared but excited, since I have been with out breast for about 7 months now. WOW 7 months with no breast...but I had some very good and expensive prosthetics thanks to my insurance...and if I didn't tell you they came off at night, you didn't know it, (I was still fine as wine).

So since I was gonna be down, for a while my doctor said 4-6 weeks, but I was thinking 2-4 weeks, cause I don't have 6 weeks to be down...anyways since I was gonna be down for while, I spent some time with my daughter, kicked with my girls for the weekend, spent time with the hubs...and prayed a lot about the up coming surgery....



side note...

Please do your monthly self breast exams, early dectection is key...Breast Cancer knows no age, sex..(men can get it too)...or color...

It's Been A While...

Whew it's been a while since I posted...and a lot has passed, so I guess I will have to back track...

Let's see where to start...well I guess I will start where I left off, at work.... Well as you know from the last post I did go back on Dec 1, but I miss quoted I said I was out 6 months, when actually it was 9 months...(Whew that's a long time)...anyways going back to work was interesting very interesting.. a lot of new people...most of them brown...most of them women...but a lot...they also added a whole new department..

I won't go all in about what happened while I was there, mainly because I can't remember..lol...but I do remember it took me a whole week to log on, they seem so unprepared like they didn't know I was coming back. And that made me very upset on more than one occasion, and I went back to training class, after training class, after training class...

I was hated on by the new people, for one they thought I was new, and I really don't' associate with my co-workers...and you know I was clean everyday, so they assumed I was stuck up..(ok ok I might be a little bit, maybe a lot but who's paying attention)..and I had to set a couple of people straight...and of course I got the age old question "How many shoes do you have?" more than once...

I think that about sums it up...I mean more stuff happened, but like I said I can't really remember...

But that kinds brings me to the present because I went back on leave March 5, 2010...