So I'm reading trying to come up with something to post, because I have been having writers block. So I'm searching the web and I come across this topic Born Again Virgin, and the reason why it interest me is because we were just talking about this at work..(I know interesting work talk huh??) Well it came up because a co worker said she had been Celibate for 2 yrs. Another co worker said "you're a born again Virgin" So me with my mouth said First off she hasn't been born again, and once you have sex that's it, you are no longer a Virgin, period.
So let me get into why I feel this way. Well first of all it's a fact a Virgin is someone who has not had sexual intercourse. That's pretty to the point. Now if you decide to become Celibate, meaning you are not engaging in sex, that's good for you, but you are not a Virgin! There is no way that you could be. It's not like you can turn back the time, and reverse all the sexual escapades you were in, or like you can give back all those amazing feelings you have during sex. There is not way you can now cut your connections to the people you let embrace you, and caress you and penetrate you or that you penetrated. Sex is not a trial run, like oh I'm gonna have sex for a while and see how this plays out then, and if it doesn't work the way you want it, you can automatically be a Virgin again....
But that' just how I feel, what do I know...
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Black Women and Our Relationship Status....
Ok I have been going back and forth on whether I should touch this topic, because I posted a couple of links on my facebook page, (I'll get into them later in this post) and it got way out of hand, people were calling names, and or getting offended. So like I said I've been going back and forth and I decided on doing so because, I'm a Black Women and this is my BLOG, and you don't like what I say then Whatever this is Me...but your comments are welcome...lol
So about 2 weeks or so ago I posted these 2 stories on my blog. Now I didn't write these I just came across them via Madam Noire, it's a site I visit frequently now.
The first one was 8 reasons you might consider dating a white man, and it was interesting how people see things, and then the next day I posted 8 reasons you might consider dating a white woman, and OMG it really got out of hand, I'm not gonna go all into what was said but if you want to see, you can find it in my links section on my facebook page. But now that I go back and read the comments it seemed like no one actually read the article. DUH! Because if they did, I think the whole conversation, would have went a whole different way, (hmmm maybe but who knows)...because both the articles were degrading to BLACK PEOPLE nobody else...and if you decide to read allll those post keep in mind, I did delete a couple to try to keep confusion down, but apparently that didn't...
Since these controversial post, I have been searching the net, and the more I search the more I get irritated, because there are numerous articles out there, that ask some kind of question to why Black women are not married, why black men don't want us, Have we given up on black men, and so forth..
So Before I get into what I have to say, This is my Disclaimer
These are MY views, and I've only dated black men so that's all I can speak on. I know there are a lot of people who believe that Love knows no color, and that's just fine, but mine does and my love's color of choice is BLACK!
ok now that that's out the way...
Why are they (whomever they are) so damn worried and or concern about Black Women and our Relationship Status. Why is it every body's business who and or when we decid to date...
First off there is the misconception of women especially black women that we all want to be married, FYI that shit ain't true, some of us do, some of us are and are married to black men, some of us are married to man of a different race, and some of us love the single life. How hard is that to understand.
All black women have not been hurt to a point where we are bitter, demanding and vindictive... now there are some out there, but also there are some in other races too..you do know that we are also sweet, innocent, respectful and knows how to handle things, yes it's true...
All Black women don't have kids out of wedlock, Let me say that again, All black women DO NOT have kids out of wedlock...and while I'm on this let also add some of us have only 1 baby Daddy, so please stop acting like it's unheard of...and best believe for as many single black mothers, there are just as many in other races too..
All Black women DO NOT date thugs, yeah it's true, we are not all attracted to the thug life, some of us are, but some us like white collar workers, blue collar workers, with or with out benefits...
and Oh yeah A lot of us do Believe in Black Love, yep I said it, A LOT OF US DO BELIEVE IN BLACK LOVE....and it DOES EXIST! and it has not just come into play, I mean where in the hell do you think all these black people came from, we did not fall out the fucking sky, we were not created in a damn Lab, we got here the same way all the other races got here, from our parents (yes we have parents) having sex and we came out of our Mother's Coochie....
Oh and my most favorite, Why Black Men don't want Black Women, now this is kinda funny, why you ask, is because How can you not want us, We are so powerful, strong, and Confident on top of being Beautiful. That's how we were born, and over the years of being mistreated by the media, and other races, and men, we continue to be Strong and Confident in who we are, Even though we are put down by other black women, by black men, by all other races, we still continue to be Strong and Confident, and Beautiful..
So I say to this to my Beautiful Black Sisters, with your big lips, nappy hair, big butts, big titties, your light, medium, or dark skin, Fuck what people say and think about you, Keep Doing what You do, Because you do it oh so well...
AND these so called new slogans like MY Black is Beautiful, and Black girls Rock...Let me say this, Black has been Beautiful for years, and will continue to be, and we did not just start Rocking...Where have you been???
So about 2 weeks or so ago I posted these 2 stories on my blog. Now I didn't write these I just came across them via Madam Noire, it's a site I visit frequently now.
The first one was 8 reasons you might consider dating a white man, and it was interesting how people see things, and then the next day I posted 8 reasons you might consider dating a white woman, and OMG it really got out of hand, I'm not gonna go all into what was said but if you want to see, you can find it in my links section on my facebook page. But now that I go back and read the comments it seemed like no one actually read the article. DUH! Because if they did, I think the whole conversation, would have went a whole different way, (hmmm maybe but who knows)...because both the articles were degrading to BLACK PEOPLE nobody else...and if you decide to read allll those post keep in mind, I did delete a couple to try to keep confusion down, but apparently that didn't...
Since these controversial post, I have been searching the net, and the more I search the more I get irritated, because there are numerous articles out there, that ask some kind of question to why Black women are not married, why black men don't want us, Have we given up on black men, and so forth..
So Before I get into what I have to say, This is my Disclaimer
These are MY views, and I've only dated black men so that's all I can speak on. I know there are a lot of people who believe that Love knows no color, and that's just fine, but mine does and my love's color of choice is BLACK!
ok now that that's out the way...
Why are they (whomever they are) so damn worried and or concern about Black Women and our Relationship Status. Why is it every body's business who and or when we decid to date...
First off there is the misconception of women especially black women that we all want to be married, FYI that shit ain't true, some of us do, some of us are and are married to black men, some of us are married to man of a different race, and some of us love the single life. How hard is that to understand.
All black women have not been hurt to a point where we are bitter, demanding and vindictive... now there are some out there, but also there are some in other races too..you do know that we are also sweet, innocent, respectful and knows how to handle things, yes it's true...
All Black women don't have kids out of wedlock, Let me say that again, All black women DO NOT have kids out of wedlock...and while I'm on this let also add some of us have only 1 baby Daddy, so please stop acting like it's unheard of...and best believe for as many single black mothers, there are just as many in other races too..
All Black women DO NOT date thugs, yeah it's true, we are not all attracted to the thug life, some of us are, but some us like white collar workers, blue collar workers, with or with out benefits...
and Oh yeah A lot of us do Believe in Black Love, yep I said it, A LOT OF US DO BELIEVE IN BLACK LOVE....and it DOES EXIST! and it has not just come into play, I mean where in the hell do you think all these black people came from, we did not fall out the fucking sky, we were not created in a damn Lab, we got here the same way all the other races got here, from our parents (yes we have parents) having sex and we came out of our Mother's Coochie....
Oh and my most favorite, Why Black Men don't want Black Women, now this is kinda funny, why you ask, is because How can you not want us, We are so powerful, strong, and Confident on top of being Beautiful. That's how we were born, and over the years of being mistreated by the media, and other races, and men, we continue to be Strong and Confident in who we are, Even though we are put down by other black women, by black men, by all other races, we still continue to be Strong and Confident, and Beautiful..
So I say to this to my Beautiful Black Sisters, with your big lips, nappy hair, big butts, big titties, your light, medium, or dark skin, Fuck what people say and think about you, Keep Doing what You do, Because you do it oh so well...
AND these so called new slogans like MY Black is Beautiful, and Black girls Rock...Let me say this, Black has been Beautiful for years, and will continue to be, and we did not just start Rocking...Where have you been???
How to do a Self Breat Exam...
Well this is just an informational piece, I've included a link to show you how to do your Self Breast Exams, in case you're not sure on how to do them
How to Do your Self Breast Exam
There are also videos on you tube for those who are visual.
I hope this helps some one.
How to Do your Self Breast Exam
There are also videos on you tube for those who are visual.
I hope this helps some one.
This Brought Me To Tears...
When I came across this story, just the title alone "4yr old Battle Breast Cancer" brought tears to my eyes, and I just kept thing, Oh My she is a Breast Cancer Survivor at 4 yrs old, and people always say to me oh you're young, Breast Cancer is usually found in older women. Well at 4yrs old I am the older woman at age 37.
Now I know that their are kids that have many types of Cancer. And they undergo Chemotherapy, and all the effects that go with that, and that even is also touching to me, because I know first hand how Chemotherapy can effect you, mentally and physically, and to think of a child going thru is really saddens me.
Fortunately in this case this little 4yr old girl didn't need to undergo Chemotherapy, but she did have to have a mastectomy and have some of her lymph nodes removed. Now think 4 yrs old and having to have your breast or breast tissue, cause at 4 YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE BREAST YET!!! So do you really know what it means to this little princess, that she will never grow a breast on that side. Let me say that again, she will never be able to grow a breast on that side...OMG I'm in tears just thinking about that, can you imagine that, of yourself, or your daughter. As young girls that' a right of passage, some of us can barely even wait until our breast start to grow.
OK now that I've read about Aleshia Hunter (that's her name) I started to google children with Breast Cancer, and I came across some shocking stories, about young girls being breast Cancer survivors.
So my question is, even though it is rare for a child to get Breast Cancer, but it's not unheard of, why is it that they won't allow women to get Mammograms until age 40? hmmmm something to think about, well I will look into that and get back with you.
Now not only do you need to do your monthly self breast exams,
but you need to check your daughter's breast too.
Ladies this is real
Cancer can Kill
If you have Breast Tissue YOU ARE AT RISK!
Early Detection is key to your survival
Please, Please be aware of what goes on with your and your child(ren)'s bodies.
Now I know that their are kids that have many types of Cancer. And they undergo Chemotherapy, and all the effects that go with that, and that even is also touching to me, because I know first hand how Chemotherapy can effect you, mentally and physically, and to think of a child going thru is really saddens me.
Fortunately in this case this little 4yr old girl didn't need to undergo Chemotherapy, but she did have to have a mastectomy and have some of her lymph nodes removed. Now think 4 yrs old and having to have your breast or breast tissue, cause at 4 YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE BREAST YET!!! So do you really know what it means to this little princess, that she will never grow a breast on that side. Let me say that again, she will never be able to grow a breast on that side...OMG I'm in tears just thinking about that, can you imagine that, of yourself, or your daughter. As young girls that' a right of passage, some of us can barely even wait until our breast start to grow.
OK now that I've read about Aleshia Hunter (that's her name) I started to google children with Breast Cancer, and I came across some shocking stories, about young girls being breast Cancer survivors.
So my question is, even though it is rare for a child to get Breast Cancer, but it's not unheard of, why is it that they won't allow women to get Mammograms until age 40? hmmmm something to think about, well I will look into that and get back with you.
Now not only do you need to do your monthly self breast exams,
but you need to check your daughter's breast too.
Ladies this is real
Cancer can Kill
If you have Breast Tissue YOU ARE AT RISK!
Early Detection is key to your survival
Please, Please be aware of what goes on with your and your child(ren)'s bodies.
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