Just ask...

Now a days there is so much speculation about just Bullshit. And I'm so tired of all this shit. I don't hate anybody, I'm not mad at anybody, I'm not jealous of anybody and I'm not beefing with anybody. It's just that simple and if I say something or post something on MY facebook page, if you think it's about you Call me my number is on Facebook, or inbox me and I will tell you. and the funny thing is most of my stats are random. Or when I read somebody else's status I kinda piggy back off what in said in the responses.....When I post positive things it's ok. But as soon as I say something out of pocket I got be a hater. smh... but it is My Page, so I should be able to say what I want. Right?? there should be clause that says. Say what you want, as long as you are not offending people, or hating on people, or insulting people or point the finger on people, or placing the blame on people... you get the point

I don't even have time to be a hater or worry about what nobody else is doing. So please if you are reading this blog, please stop the inboxes, the text telling me this and that. I really don't care. Stop calling me with bullshit cause I really don't care.I don't do drama at all. I don't have the energy for this shit. I'm too busy working on a better Me, and more Fabulous Me, My Happy awaits me. it really does.

And when I get to My Happy, OMG it's gonna be so amazing to go along with all the other amazing things I have, like my daughter she is so amazing there are no words to describe her. My husband he's so amazing he a blessing to me. My son, even though he is a knuckle head, he is still amazing...

Right now I'm just in a transition stage, and I will be here for a while, because I have a lot of cleansing to do, with my mind, body and soul, but while I'm in this process, I don't hate anybody, I'm not mad at anybody and I'm not jealous of anybody, and I'm not beefing with anybody. Because if I was then I would never find my Happy.

So now I'm just gonna take a Facebook Break, from the drama, from people, from people.

and let me put this out here also, just because I'm choosing to work on me and revise my inner circle, doesn't mean I'm mad or upset, or beefing with anybody, nor does it mean that now I'm hating on people or don't want to see them happy or get ahead. I wish the best for everybody. I'm not a jealous hearted person by no means, never had and never will be.

All this means, is this situation no longer works for me, and I need to change somethings, and since the only person I can change is me, then that's who needs to be alone and be worked on. That's all I'm doing.

I Hope the Therapist can help me!

I fell like nobody understands me. Or Nobody can really relate to who I am. I've made some choices to do things differently and sometimes I feel like I need to rethink these choices, even though I know they are better for me, or at least I think they are. What if I'm just giving up on things, or overreacting..(because I've heard that more than once). Why is it that I'm the one who always have to give in, or the one who people always do wrong, is it because they think or know I will forgive them. My mom did say people will forgive you before they give you permission.
Is that I'm just to sensitive, caring or compassionate about other people and that leaves me open to get hurt. Or is it I'm just the one who lets people run over them. If so then why do people say I'm mean, or too outspoken, or my favorite a bit much to deal with, or this one (which is new to me) I'm full of drama...lol

I'm so tired of not being about to trust people, because of all the times I've been hurt, or not being able to be who I really am, for the fear of people saying things like, oh she thinks she better than people, or she is too much. or having to hold back because somebody will take something I've said the wrong way and hold it against me instead of just saying something, or If I feel there is an issue I can't even address it because then I'm overreacting...

What happen to accepting people for who they are, and if you don't like who they are, then move around, and that's ok too...

I'm tired of having my feelings hurt and crying and trying to hold relationships together with out any substance. Tired of the bullshit, and the secrets. Tired of not being comfortable.

So that's why I got me a therapist. I really hope she can help me sort all of this out and get back my happy. Get to being the person I should be.

Now I'm not saying that I do no wrong, or that I'm perfect by no means, I have so many flaws I stopped counting...but I'm caring and I KNOW how to be a friend, I've proven this many times and still has been hurt...


I know people are gonna say you have a husband, and Yes I do and he is wonderful, but the only problem is not only can't he relate to my situation, he's bias...

A Much Needed Trip..

Well I'm home from my trip to Alabama for my cousin's birthday, and boy I am so glad I was able to make it. My cousin who is like my Sister, the sister I never had. She is so wonderful, I love being in her company. We laughed and joked, we talked and vented. I was good to be around somebody who I KNOW will love me for me no matter what. Somebody who I didn't have to worry about if I said something that should would hold it against me or throw it back in my face later. She is so wonderful, beautiful inside and out. Her spirit....Her Spirit is so Genuine... We just had a ball the whole weekend. I love how we vibe...how we have so many things in common, how we can understand what's it's like to be a part of this crazy, dysfunctional family and still get along. No jealousy, no envy, no hate...just love...

While I was there I also met one of her friends in person. (We're facebook friends) and she is so Real it's ridiculous...and we hit it off instantly...and again, no jealousy, no envy, no hate.. just grown brown women getting along...Where they do that at....lol apparently in Alabama...

I love you Cousin/Sister...I wish we lived closer, but I promise we will not go that long without seeing each other ever again...

I'm so glad I had that time to just get away, see some new things, experience some new people....it was a much needed trip...

Naturally Beautiful???

So lately on Facebook, (yes I'm always on Facebook) anyways, I had seen a lot of post from women, Brown women...basically saying that they don't need make up to be beautiful. And and women who wear make up is only pretty with make up on. I mean you should have seen the comments, I'm already cute I don't need make up, I wonder what her pillow looks like, if you already cute why do you need it, her man has prob never seen her with out it, etc...just foolishness...

Now my problem with this most of the women who made these comments wear a weave..hmmmm natural huh? NOT!! Cause people who don't wear weaves or who wear their hair natural could say, she wearing that weave to look cute, or she must be bald, or has her man ever seen her real hair, does she know what her real hair looks like, etc.



Now let me break it down like this, Make up enhances your natural beauty if you wear it right, just because you choose not to wear make up it doesn't make you prettier then the women who choose to. Same goes for women who chooses not to wear a weave/perm that doesn't make you prettier than women who choose to wear one, it enhances their beauty to if is done right...

I just don't get Brown women, why would you put down the next sister because she does something different than you...or because she see her beauty differently than you see yours. Basically you hating on her because of how she sees herself.....but why...but why??

So I'm gonna end this about talking about me, I use to wear a weave and a perm and now I'm all natural, I've been bald and I've had long hair, I'm beautiful any way...and I wear make up almost everyday, I love make up, I look fabulous with it and without it...

how you choose to express your beauty is your choice...

but until you can go out the house with no make up and no weave or chemical in your hair, no lashes, no fake nails, etc.... you may be beautiful but you are not natural!!...I'm just saying

Oh! and take a pic and post it on Facebook...

Show that you Care About your Child(ren) Education

There is a misconception in the School System that Black People don’t care about their kids education, because as a whole we don’t come to school functions, we don’t participate in the PTA/PTO, or we don’t come out to Parent Teacher Conferences, but what needs to be realized is that most of us are single parents and a lot of us have multiple kids, and we have to work to provide for these kids, and sometimes our work schedule doesn’t permit us to be at the school when needed or sometimes we are just flat our tired.

Here are somethings that can help with this misconception.

1. Make sure your Child(ren)s teacher has your email addy.
2. Know your Child(ren)s teachers by name.
3. When you do have a day off, visit the school.
4. Set up Random meetings when the Teachers when you have time.
5. Take the time off of work to go to School Activities.
6. Show up at the Parent Teacher conference if you can't make sure you touch base with the teacher to let them know you can't make it.
7. Volunteer at School functions..

and of course make sure you kid is completing their homework, school work, has a good nights sleep, and breakfast in the morning...