Black Women and Reality TV

So I watch Reality TV like most of us, and I'm all on Facebook posting about it, Tweeting about it on Twitter, because for one it's funny to watch and even funnier to talk about it with others.

But I've noticed a lot of websites, blogs and people have said that the Black women on these shows, (Housewives of Atlanta, Basketball Wives, Love and Hip Hop etc) portray us as Black women in a bad light...WELL UM NOT REALLY, yeah I said it not really...the Reality of it is most Black women act/behave that way and sometimes even worst...I know I'm going to get women saying I don't do that, or My and my girl don't do that...well FYI if you don't then that's good, I feel like I don't either. But you know somebody and or is related to somebody who does....Let me say that again we ALL know somebody and or are related to somebody, that is a Hood Rat, Ghetto, Trifling, or my favorite a Ride or Die Chick. And if you say no I don't know those kind of people. That person just might be YOU.

As Black people the majority of us are aggressive by nature, and being an aggressive women whose thought process is emotional can lead to disaster. Example, finding out your Boo is fucking around on you, with your homegirl and she pregnant... Example find out that your Boo has a wife he never told you about....Example Finding out your Boo is on the DL.... Example Finding out your Boo has given you a STD..Get the picture...and yes in any of these situations (not just limited to these) we can go into Ghetto crazy girl mode with the quickness...

Now I know there are some of us who, think before we react, but not the majority..

WHY??

First of all Why, as parents are they even allowing their kids to listen to Lil Wayne? His music is for Adults not kids. We wonder why our youth especially our girls are growing up so fast. A lot of it has to do with Parenting Skills.

Stop trying to be friends with your kids, Why on earth would you allow your baby girl, your princess write a letter to Lil Wayne, it is not cute at all, AT ALL...Now what happens he if answers back? hmmmm and not the way they you want him too, then these parents will be having a fit trying to sue him for disrespecting thier babies, I mean his mouth is out of control, but so are these parents for allowing this madness, putting these babies in a grown up position..

Please moniter what your child watch, what you say around them...

Come on Black People, we have GOT to do better... SMH

Don't take things so personal, Everything is NOT about you!!

Ok so if you know anything about me I love Facebook. (sometimes it's my only Friend and that's ok) There are many reasons that my inner circle fits like a belt, at this point I'm really ready to keep it this way, but my husband thinks I should expand it..well we'll see about that...

Now you also know that I love my name Tamiko and my namesakes, and I have many namesakes Facebook Friends and we have a group just for us, and I love this group... (I love my Lovely O's)

So I wake up this morning to an inbox from one of my namesakes...and it surprised me I was so lost.. it said verbatim

Tamiko Smith
GETTIN OFF UR PAGE SO U CAN BE OFF MINE, N BY THA WAY, URE NOWHERR BEIN FAB, U R UGLY N BALD N UR DAUGHTER...NO WAY IN HELL SHE LOOKS MIXED, LOL DON'T KID URSELF
6:06AM

and she blocked me so I couldn't reply...lol (just to much for the AM)

then I got a couple more inboxes about the stuff she has wrote on her wall, mind you after she deleted...(ain't it funny how people delete you then talk shit...to funny) anyways

Apparently here is how we got to this point...I'm confused about it, but maybe it's me...here goes

Ms. Smith posted this story on her status

about Lauryn Hill

and she said something like. Somebody needs to stop, or she needs to quit, something along that road...

I read the story and said

Tamiko Storey-Edwards
Maybe she wants a big family and at least she can afford to take care of them..
19 hours ago · Like


now hours after I wrote that, she deleted/blocked me and came back with this..
Verbatim (this was inboxed to me...Thanks FB Buddy)

Tamiko Smith
WHO CARES, REALLY NOT ME, SHE CAN SHIT OUT AS MANY AS SHE WANTS, I REALLY COULD CARELESS, BOUT HER N ANYONE ELSE......WHY THA SLICK SHIT, I DONT GET IT, HAVE SUM RESPECT FOR MY POSTS LIKE I DO URS...SEEM LIKE U ALWAYS HAVE SUMTHIN TO MESSED UP TO SAY ON MY POSTS, REALLY WATS THA PROB? U DONT KNO ME LIKE THAT, IM NOT DISRESPECTFUL BUT I CAN BE, U MUST REALLY BE UNHAPPY...
3 hours ago · Like

Tamiko Smith
U MUST BE VERY VERY UNHAPPY, CAUSE I COME ON UR PAGE WIT RESPECT, N THIS AINT THA 1ST TIME U DUN SAID SUM SHIT TO PISS ME OFF, U DONT KNO ME LIKE THAT...GIVE ME THA SAME RESPECT THAT I GIV U, I AINT NO FAN OF URS, OKAY, DONT LOOK UP TO U N DONT KNO U, AND IM NOT GON SIT BAK N LET U SAY WAT U WANT TO SAY ON MY POST, IF U DONT LIKE THEM, KEEP IT MOVIN, OR DELETE URSELF. PLEASE.....
3 hours ago · Like

Tamiko Smith
ALL THA SHIT GOD BROUGHT U THRU, SMH, I WOULD BE THA NICEST PERSON ON EARTH, REAL MUFUKIN TAL, DELETE URSELF, TAKE ME OFF OF TAMIKOS PAGE I REALLY COULD CARELESS, BUT U GON CHILL WIT UR SLICK ASS MOUF ON MY PAGE....#CHEW ON THAT, GOT MY FRENZ ASKIN WHO THA HELL R U, HELL I DONT EVEN KNO, CHEER UP, GOD KEPT U FOR A REASON, LET THIS BE THA REASON U LEAVE MY PAGE....MS FABULOUS
3 hours ago · Like

(BLANK STARE)

and after reading this I'm still confused, Did I says something wrong, Did she think I was talking about her...Um No I was talking about Ms. Lauryn Hill...

People please stop taking shit so damn personal, or how about if you're not for sure JUST ASK...sheesh

and this is just one of the many reasons my inner circle fits like a belt...and I'm good with that...

7 yrs and 9 yrs old.....Rape Suspects???? So Sad!!

ok click here to read the story...

When I read this story it, I was speechless and had tears in my eyes. Yet I had so many questions...

First of all it's unbelievable, a 7 yr old and a 9 yr old rapes a 2 yr old...OMG the thought of it is just sad and scary. My daughter is 7...man, I mean just unbelievable.

These are just babies and this IS learned behavior, but from who The Parents, maybe maybe not, it could be a older sibling, a care taker, a relative a family friend, but it is definitely learned behavior. Because at 7 and 9 you barely know your own body and what to do with it it, how would you even know or think to insert something in someone. Unless you seen it or had it done to you.

Did I mention I have a 7 yr old...man just crazy...

I do think taking them away from the home was a good choice, at least until they figure out who has bee abusing these babies. I also pray that they don't put these babies in jail, because they are also victims they need help, and a lot of it at such a young age. Boy oh boy the Devil is busy.

My heart and my prayers got out to all the families involved and the community, because this is going to get worst before it gets better, because when they start to dig into these family and find the sick bastard that has been abusing these babies...I hope they give they ass life in prison and somebody takes advantage of their ass...

People please pay attention to your kids and the people you allow to interact with you kids. because you never know a person is an abuser until they've abused someone....

WWW - World Wide Web...

It's amazing the things that you come across while surfing the web, Sometimes I wonder do people realize that the web is world wide, not just local, not just in America. If they really knew this, would they be more conscious of what they put on here? hmmmmm or would they not give a damn, or how about what you put on the web NEVER goes away. Now I have to admit I've written some emails that I wouldn't want anybody else to read expect the person it was for, and I do know they can be recovered, but I can't say that there is picture of me, that I put on the web that I don't want people to do see, or that my come back to haunt me.

People need to realize and I'm talking grown people, or people who consider themselves grown, because Kids do dumb stuff, we all did the difference is when we (my generation and older) were young, we had regular pics, no email, we used pencils and paper, we had no cell phones web cams etc. and we still did dumb stuff, but today the dumb stuff these kids are doing is being documented FOREVER, and one day maybe just maybe when they become adults, it may come back to haunt them, ...and The grown people need to act like they know damn better before their kids come across some of this shit on the Internet, cause it's really not that hard to come by....